Love and Marriage…and…Progress Reports??

Of course when I was in school…progress reports were not my favorite thing.  Once I discovered boys started high school I sure didn’t like those two words together.  I never thought I’d yearn for a checkup of how I’m doing!  However, as an adult who works full time in a fast paced role, I look forward to performance reviews to be able to have that check-in with my boss (a busy, Global Vice President). I need to hear the good, bad and ugly of how I’m doing so I can act on it. As a Manager, I welcome the opportunity to do the same.  I take it seriously.  I’m probably one of the few people who really enjoys it!!

Well..as a married woman who love love loves her hubby so much…like SO much..I often wish I had a template of a marriage progress report to measure my performance.  To feel like I know what I’m doing right and wrong and in between.  I’m going to create one.  I want to.  I might.  I should add that to my bucket list.  Mike and I have our own detailed conversations about this and daily I truly do attempt to do something that translates the WORDS I love you into an action…but life is busy and chaotic and sometimes you just want to be sure that’s the message you’re conveying!   Somewhere between the “Honey, can you pick up supper?” and the “I have no idea where your socks are.  I don’t wear them!”, you just want to know that the love is shining through!

Hmm. More on this later. Need to wash some socks.

Who’s Driving?

Had a little conversation at the office about this last week and it’s worth capturing.  I am of the opinion that much of the “spirit” of a relationship between a man and a woman is driven by the woman.  I’m not totally saying that the woman is the MOST POWERFUL of the two…but I am saying that if a woman has a negative/bad attitude, the man seems to respond something like this –  obviously mad, irritated, defensive, etc.  On the contrary, if the woman is mild mannered or positive, the man usually responds in kind.  It doesn’t seem to work the other way around.  If the MAN is one way or another, it doesn’t always have the same effects on the woman.  Usually a woman will try to make the mood better if it’s bad!

This is based on my personal experience of friends and such…I’m sure it doesn’t always work out like this!

What do YOU think?