Category: marriage

Who’s Driving?

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Had a little conversation at the office about this last week and it’s worth capturing.  I am of the opinion that much of the “spirit” of a relationship between a man and a woman is driven by the woman.  I’m not totally saying that the woman is the MOST POWERFUL of the two…but I am saying that if a woman has a negative/bad attitude, the man seems to respond something like this –  obviously mad, irritated, defensive, etc.  On the contrary, if the woman is mild mannered or positive, the man usually responds in kind.  It doesn’t seem to work the other way around.  If the MAN is one way or another, it doesn’t always have the same effects on the woman.  Usually a woman will try to make the mood better if it’s bad!

This is based on my personal experience of friends and such…I’m sure it doesn’t always work out like this!

What do YOU think?

Extra Snacks in the Bag…

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When my husband goes to the grocery store (which he does, almost every time this family GETS groceries), besides when it’s Lowes Foods To Go – I mean him going and doing the shopping, he usually always picks up something extra.   I often joke with him that I’d be much better off going because it would save us a good $60 each TRIP!  He’s a brand name snob.  He will NOT buy generic medicine (not even pain reliever…but it’s mostly due to his pharma knowledge so it makes sense).  I’m funny about my ketchup and mac and cheese but other than that, bring on the store brand!  Not the mister.  However, there are a few things that he purchases that don’t bother me a bit.  I don’t ask for these things or even remind him…but when he gets home I’m almost excited to see what he’s remembered that I love.  The last time he went, I found these things in addition to the “list”….

 

Caramello bars are my most FAVORITE candy bar from WAY back.  Talenti is a new but serious favorite frozen treat.  I love that he remembers these things and knows that they are such small ways to show me he cares.  To surprise me and show me his love.  I do the same for him if I go to La Dolce Vita for lunch…I usually order his fave dessert to go.  If I am in Tramway on a Saturday, I might go to Tobacco Road to see if there is a new shirt he’d love.  Showing your spouse you love them in a small way can really make a BIG difference.  I certainly know he’s always thinking about US…and he knows the same.

And, now, I have to run.  Caramel and keyboards don’t mix.  😉

Gee Thanks!

On By mrsjmejonesIn about us, family, grateful, home, hubby, kids, lists, love, marriage, MJ, my heart, positive thinking, praise, ThanksgivingLeave a comment

So, I’ve been a bad, bad girl.  I haven’t been on FB to post every day what I’m thankful for!  <Gasp!>  (Before you think I’m talking about YOU, I did it last year and I didn’t hate it….so I’m not judging.)

But, we all know by now, I’m a list girl.  I’m thankful for lists.  That’s all!  Good night, thanks!

Okay…maybe…more….like…

  1. My personal relationship with my Lord and Saviour.  (If you don’t have that, please talk to me!)
  2. My sweet, considerate, funny hubby.  Our relationship is crazy strong and we are just getting started!  (Six years…)
  3. My kids…all three of them are so different but such great combinations of personality, wit and charm. (And sarcasm.)
  4. My family, every single member of it.  Both sides.  All sides. Especially the relationship with my Mom.  Always there for me.  Always willing to listen.  Also, the relationship between myself and my step-wife (my step-son’s Mom if you are not in the know) is such a blessing.  No drama, just working together for the good of our families that are intertwined.  Makes perfect sense, huh?  🙂
  5. Our home.  Though we are trying to sell it…it has provided shelter from storms, cold (hmm), heat and rain…we’ve welcomed a new life into this home together and had many moments of cheer and sadness as well.
  6. My job and it’s blessings..coworkers…my team..my boss..my friends made and kept there…
  7. Yoga pants
  8. Short hair (don’t care)
  9. Talenti gelato
  10. My wonderful family physician…Phillip takes such good care of us ALL!
  11. A clean house and the fabulous lady who makes that possible!!  (Love my cleaning angel!)
  12. That all my kids are potty trained!!!
  13. Social media. It’s been a lifeline at times for me. Might sound sad..but it’s true.
  14. Lifetime movies
  15. Nordstrom personal stylists. Sometimes when I put on one of the outfits she put together for me I’m still shocked that I’ve gone outside the box on some things.
  16. Hallmark Channel
  17. Dasani water
  18. Bojangles.  Just yes.
  19. Thyroid medicine.  Makes such a difference.
  20. Excel. Pivot tables. V look ups.
  21. Freedom
  22. Fantasy Football – gives me a reason to watch and spend time with my boys and hubby
  23. Blogging. A healthy outlet for me.

Guilty of a Happy Marriage

On By mrsjmejonesIn love, marriage, my heart, praise, trustLeave a comment

I feel bad from time to time about talking about how happy Mike and I are….and then, I stop.  Because I *am* happy and I don’t think I should feel guilty about that.  I am blessed and I know it.  I’m appreciative and I thank the Lord for it every day.  Is it perfect?  No.  Do we argue? Yes.  Does it last for days?  NO!

I don’t know how to explain it but we are both so very appreciative of one another that we just simply don’t let time pass without letting each other KNOW that.  We are very careful to not sweat the small stuff.  We are open, honest, and truly try to make each other happy every single day.

And if you have a similar relationship – good for you!  And if you don’t, I sincerely hope one day you do.

Either way, I won’t apologize about my happiness.  Ever again.

And they said it wouldn’t last….

On By mrsjmejonesIn hags, marriageLeave a comment

So for some reason, my anniversary always makes me think of a few hags women that I used to work with in a previous occupation.  I had just gotten married and came back from my honeymoon so very sure of my marriage, giddy, and believing-in-all-things-love.  Everyone was so sweet to ask me how our wedding was (it was very small, only our parents and kids attended), how the honeymoon was and did I feel differently now that I was married.  Glee ensued as I talked about our meaningful ceremony, the sweet words we spoke and the beauty of it all.  However, aforementioned ladies found it the best use of their time to tell me how that “feeling” would never last.  How the fact that I had butterflies about going home to my huzzzzband (as I pronounced it) that very day would very soon go away and I’d be begging him to go on a golf trip and leave me alone.  They said he’d never keep being as sweet as he was to me on our wedding weekend.  They made sure to mention that we’d both get so tired of each other in a few years that we would find ways to be apart.  Now, mind you, one of these women was married and had been for about 50 years and the others were dating after their husbands had either passed away or passed them by.  I remember going home and wondering if they were right but SERIOUSLY hoping that they were wrong.  I remember being angry with them that they couldn’t just be happy for me, given me time to be giddy and happy before they hit me with their version of reality.

I am so happy to tell you that after six years of marriage….I still have butterflies when I know my sweet huzzzzzband is almost home.  I get excited about date night.  We send silly texts and write love letters daily (even if it’s via email).  We enjoy each other’s company.  We have “our shows” that we don’t watch without one another  We travel well together.  We stay home well together.  We kiss in front of our kids (to the tune of “EWWW MOMMMM”) because I think it’s okay for our kids to know we LOVE each other and enjoy each other.  We still plan our future together because we still believe in us.  We hold hands at church.  We wink at each other from across a crowded room.  He fills my car up with gas and enjoys taking care of me.  This is our reality.  This is our LIFE!  I am so blessed and grateful that I have a loving, hot, sweet hubby who takes care of our finances and kids.  Hmm, what does he need ME for?  Hmmmmm.  Kidding, y’all.  Obvious.  Someone’s gotta make the reservations!  😉